Catholic dating in California

Catholics in California

San Francisco's archdiocese writes its young adult page as a directory, group by group, and the groups write their own paragraphs. Most Holy Redeemer in the Castro describes a group of young adults in their twenties and thirties meeting on the first and third Tuesday of each month at half past seven. St Agnes in the Haight has a Christian Life Community on the first Thursday and monthly drop-in gatherings. St Dominic's on Bush Street says it has been around since 1989, with a weekly email and a calendar, for single and married Catholics in their twenties and thirties. St Peter's in the Mission has a new Spanish-speaking group for ages eighteen to forty that meets every other Friday at seven. The Church of the Epiphany in the Excelsior welcomes eighteen to forty; Our Lady of Mount Carmel in Mill Valley, across the bridge, the same. St Raymond in Menlo Park, ages twenty-one to forty, meets after the ten o'clock Mass every Sunday for coffee and on the fourth Thursday for dinner, drinks and discussion with the Dominicans. Star of the Sea on Geary Boulevard, a community in its twenties to forties by its own description, keeps a Holy Happy Hour on Tuesdays at seven, a film series on the second Saturday, a yearly pilgrimage abroad and, in its own words, the only Latin Mass in the archdiocese. St Andrew's meets on the first and third Sundays from five to seven; St Teresa of Avila's young adults on Potrero Hill on Sundays at half past eleven; those two, and Notre Dame des Victoires, are named here without a pin because the list gives no address the page could place.

The Diocese of San Jose publishes a table rather than paragraphs, and it is a table of evenings. Bridges at St Lawrence the Martyr in Santa Clara meets on the first Monday at eight. Most Holy Trinity's young adult ministry gathers at the Sunday evening Mass at half past five. The young adults of Our Lady of Peace pray the rosary at the shrine on Wednesdays at half past six. The San Jose Chinese Catholic Mission's group meets on the first Sunday for the half-past-four Mass and a potluck. St Thomas Aquinas in Palo Alto has a Bible study on Thursdays at seven. Two Spanish-speaking groups meet at Our Lady of Guadalupe on Fridays and Tuesdays, and there are groups at St Nicholas and St William in Los Altos, at St Mary in Gilroy and in Los Gatos, at St Frances Cabrini, a Catholic dance crew, a Sursum Corda group at the Immaculate Heart of Mary Oratory, and a chapter of Young Catholic Professionals for Silicon Valley. The campus ministries are Santa Clara University, the Newman Center at San Jose State on South 10th Street, and Stanford's Catholic community; across the bay, Newman Hall at Berkeley is on Dwight Way.

Southern California is thinner on this page, and the page says why. The Archdiocese of Los Angeles runs a Division of Young Adult Ministry from Wilshire Boulevard whose site could be read only through a browser; it publishes regional evenings, a Lost and Found gathering for young adults eighteen and over on Thursdays at seven at St Anthony in San Gabriel, Word and Wisdom Wednesdays in the San Pedro region, a Sunday Bible study at St Kateri in the San Fernando region, and annual regional congresses, but the venues' street addresses were not on the pages the page could open. The Diocese of Orange's SoCal Catholic says it is for all young adults eighteen and over and publishes its campus ministries with addresses: Anteater Catholic at UC Irvine, with FOCUS missionaries and weekly men's and women's Bible studies, and Titan Catholic at Cal State Fullerton, based at St Juliana Falconieri. USC's Caruso Catholic Center on West 32nd Street is on the page from the Newman directory; UCLA's University Catholic Center is not, because its site did not answer.

What is missing is named. The dioceses of San Diego and Fresno refused the page's request, Sacramento's site did not answer, and Oakland, Monterey, Santa Rosa, San Bernardino and Stockton publish no young adult page the page could find; no Eastern Catholic parish and no shrine but Our Lady of Peace is here, because none was checked; the Latin Mass directory for California was not read, so the page names only the Latin Mass its own sources mention.

Where the community gathers

California's practising Catholic singles gather, on this page, in four places: San Francisco, the rest of the Bay Area from Marin to the Peninsula, Santa Clara and San Jose, and Los Angeles with Orange County.

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